Men, such complex creatures. Even after you think you’ve known one for ages, you keep discovering new things. Some wonderful; others not so much.
Funny, I’m almost sure I can hear the echo of some man’s agreement and in reference to the women he’s known.
There’s a lot of dating advice out there but I think this one is pertinent:
Don’t stay with a man who doesn’t respect you. But you’re not a trophy either.
This is if you’re dating; if you’re already married to him, find a way to do something about it.
Woman, you are the prize. But you are not a sign of his potency as a man; he is not allowed to dress you up in fine clothes, give you an expensive hair-do and use you to brag to his friends and colleagues. Yes, he can show you off but you deserve more than his giving you attention only when there is someone there to notice. You are allowed to let him treat you like one of his trophies.
No, I’m not going on a soapbox. I saw this post by H.A.W of Henrietta’s Musing’s, who took it off someone else’s blog and it got me thinking. I’m posting it here because well… it has some really good advice. I don’t agree with everything though, but I’ll let you make up your mind.
Read it and leave a comment telling me if you agree with the advice or if there are some you disagree with.
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that’s not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve
then heck no, you can’t “be friends.”
A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.
Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself
a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant,
Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within.
Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are…even if he has
more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else’s man.
Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you allow him to treat you
All men are not dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending…compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships…There is nothing cute about baggage. Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to complete you. A relationship consists of two whole individuals. Look for someone complimentary, not supplementary.
Dating is fun; even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always know where you are, and you’re always readily available to him—he takes it for granted.
Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Yes, that was what I said. Prayer AND Fasting. Plus I was still breastfeeding. It was not a dry fast or anything, and it wasn’t for the purpose of weight loss, but it worked wonders.